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One of the great blessings in my life over the last 18 months has been my experiences and relationship with my first grandson Jayden. It’s has been beyond my imagining and I have learnt much about myself and about people through this experience. The very young are an empty notepad. Whatever you write will remain because they possess a characteristic called “basic trust”. This means they will receive everything you impart and they will give just as freely too. I saw this with my grandson. 

For example, starting from when Jayden was about 3 months I would take him for a walk and talk to him about everything we saw. It helped that I carried him because everything I pointed to he could follow. Since his house was near a railway line, most days in the week we would walk alongside the railway and watch the trains. Every time a train passed he would get so much pleasure and his little legs would kick back and forth. On one occasion there was a lull in the high frequency of trains passing and I put on sadness that there were no trains. I was amazed when he started to cry. He had picked up the sadness in my spirit and was impacted by it. It made me very conscious that even if he did not understand my words, he could pick up my spirit. That means he could pick up from who I am. My character, weaknesses and strength, would be transmitted and would contribute to form his character.

Generalisations from this experience are supported by ministry experience in inner healing and research. What we are is imparted to our children and hugely impacts their character. They easily receive and give love. If they have been brought up in an environment of argument, anger and fear, they will grow up spiritually wounded and find it harder to love, because their initial basic trust has been damaged. If they have been brought up in an environment where education and success are the preeminent values, then perhaps trust in God will be understood to be less important than reason and wealth. There are so many ways we can leave a legacy of wrong values in our children.

In Matthew 18:3-6 Jesus said “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. “Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea. 

What an awesome challenge!

Scholars usually focus on the humility and simplicity of the child as the necessary characteristic to enter the kingdom of heaven, but the understanding that this is equivalent to the “basic trust” discussed earlier takes us deeper. It requires lots of humility to demonstrate “basic trust”. “Basic trust” is difficult for us because we have been wounded to a greater or lesser degree by the imperfect love of those around us, initially our parents and family, but later by friends too. All of us are deeply wounded. We need to bring our wounds to the cross and lay them at the feet of Jesus. We need to open our heart to the Lord and relearn basic trust that we may be healed.